Here’s what I know to be true. It’s not about finding the 'right person', it’s about building the right relationship. It’s about being the right version of yourself FOR yourself. This is a much less romantic and far harder version of love than the story they tell on the movie screens. Sure, you hope they’re a hottie, but beyond that, these are the true qualifications for creating something sustainable and real.
The looming pressure of getting thrown into ‘the real world’ upon graduating from college is the physical equivalent to a lion den. You're flooded with fear. Fear of the future, fear of the unknown, fear, perhaps, of leaving the new life you created to return to one that you've outgrown. From the failures to the fabulous, here’s how to survive (and thrive) in #postgradlife.
We’ve all found ourselves in this spot before. Lashing out at the ones we love most. Placing blame on their behavior rather than reflecting on your own. Why is this? We can be so cruel to the ones we care deepest for, dreaming up dramatizations or holding back when it’s best to be honest. Before we can effectively navigate our way out from these natural tendencies, let’s start at the beginning.
The reality of relationships is often kept under wraps from the public eye as we each put our epic portrait of ‘normal love’ forward. We can all taste the beauty of love by debunking the narrative of normal we will finally find freedom. We learn the lessons of love by living through the complexity of it all.
The holidays often bring forth a sense of thankfulness and appreciation - the grandness of it all. Yet, it’s the itty bitty, overlooked things you should be most thankful for - those day to day delights. The tiny, beautiful building blocks of gratitude that warm your heart far after the holidays. This is a letter of appreciation to the things that touch our lives but most often go overlooked.
There's no clear-cut way to give college advice. Before stepping into it, it's a world filled with so many question marks. It's a world where you can envision walking through a new routine but all of the feelings and faces surrounding you are out of focus. The bodies and backgrounds are blurred. This is because you can't paint a scene without the right tools.